02 Jun Please Stop saying "All you need is Jesus" to singles
There are so many things that Christians say to others that really is callous, and cold-hearted, that does not help others at all, and for me the one that tops the list is for someone to say to me “All you need is Jesus”. Say to anyone who is single, you don’t need love and family, “All you need is Jesus”. For someone to say, as if to brag, “All I need is Jesus”.
First off I have yet to hear one person say that to someone, that it is true about their life. Yes, Jesus is all we need as to salvation, it’s Jesus + Nothing = Everything. But when it comes to life, living life in America, functioning in life, everyone who says “All you need is Jesus” always has more than Just Jesus.
First, we are Not to go through life alone, After all, God did say in the very beginning of creation, back in Genesis 2:18 “It is not good from man to be alone”. God said that of a man that all he had was God at the time, no wife, no children, no career, home, church or even one person to hang out with, all Adam has was God and God alone. It was while man was in that state of him and God only, that God said, “It is not good from man to be alone”. Then after God said that, He created Adam a wife, then told them to be as one and have lots and lots of children. God’s plan for man is to have more than Him for life on this earth, His created purpose included man getting a mate and having children, being a family just like the Godhead is.
Secondly, we are not meant to be an inland., Josh McDowell said it well, “When it comes to my salvation, all I need is Jesus; after my salvation it’s, everything is Jesus plus the church. When people preach that all you need is Jesus, they cut you and I off from one of the greatest sources of healing, of sanctification which is the body of Christ. Don’t go it alone – you won’t make it.”
I have heard countless sermons lately about how important it is to be in a church, that is part of God’s design for Christians, we can’t go it alone.
The above two show us already that it’s at least Jesus + mate + children + church are to make up the life of a Christian.
With that said, what angers me the most is this: When someone says “All you need is Jesus” and they are married, have 3 or 4 kids, live in a very nice house, with two nice cars parked in the driveway. Have a great career, a job making a fat paycheck, have a fat 401K, and holds a leadership position at their church. Jesus is not all they have, not all they have to be happy, fulfilled, content in life on this earth, they have Jesus + + + + + + + +.
I feel that to say “Jesus is all I need” has become a Christian tagline, a statement to make them look super spiritual to others, and not the reality of their life.
I think it would be real hard to find one person in America that has a clue what it is to only have Jesus, to exist with nothing but Jesus. Or to be a happy, content, joyful, fulfilled person by having only Jesus and nothing else in their life. Everyone I hear who makes those claims is always married with children. Always have good jobs, nice houses, and cars, some have a position in their church of a ministry. Their lives are overflowing with blessings, their quiver is full, they lack no good thing, they have everything that pertains to life, they have a large box full of toys. So, of course, their happy, content, joyful and fulfilled, they have love family, careers, home, cars, church, friends and everything else in addition to Jesus.
I say take away those things and let’s see if they still say that, and I don’t mean a few days, or even a few weeks or months. And let’s see if the proudly proclaim “All you need is Jesus!”. See if after 5 years, 10 years, how about 25 years without those things if they say that, see if then they have a happy, fulfilling, purpose-filled life.
What I am saying is a person cannot have multiple sources that give love, meaning, purpose, happiness, joy, life, and claim that only one is providing all that, that all the other things their life is filled with are irrelevant.
I just wish people would stop proclaiming, “All I need is Jesus”, telling others “All you need is Jesus” when it’s not true of their own life, Jesus is not all they have. They cannot say their happiness, purpose, meaning and fulfilled life comes from Jesus alone when their life is filled with love and family (mate and kids), career and a good paying job, nice house, nice cars, fat bank account, part of a great church. They cannot separate themselves from those things and say they do not matter when they do matter. They cannot say Jesus is their source when their life overflowing with all of those other life-giving blessings, purpose giving things.
If you have a headache and you take two aspirins, pray and lay down for a half hour and get up and your headache is gone, you cannot claim all you need is prayer to cure a headache. You have to give credit to the aspirin and nap as well, not just to your prayer. Unless you prayed only, you can’t give it the credit, because an aspirin and a nap, each will cure headaches. You cannot say All I need is prayer when your taking aspirin and a nap too.
Only after you take the training wheels off your bike, can you truthfully say they have nothing to do with me being able to ride a bike, that there not necessary.
I really believe people should not tell someone they do not need something in their life, if they have it in their life, do not tell someone they do not need a certain thing to be happy unless you do not have it in your life and are happy. So, don’t tell people they do not need money to live a good life and be happy, when you have a fat paycheck and bank account, you’re not living without it, so don’t tell them to. If your married and have children, don’t tell singles they don’t need them, and should not even want to have them. You’re not living without them, you were not willing to stay single so don’t tell them to.
Bottom line, Don’t tell people, especially single people that all they need is Jesus when you’re married, have children, great job, nice home, two cars and a place in a church because Jesus is not all you have.