Social Networks, Virtual Friends vs Real Friends

Social Networks, Virtual Friends vs Real Friends

11-28-09 After reading a lot lately about social networks and online church communities,  I’ve been thinking about the term “friend” lately. With all the talk today about Twitter, Facebook and on line church. I think we must really look at the real definition of not only biblical community and relationships, but the very word "friend" and what that means. Today  social, personal relationships are measured in 140 characters, contained and maintained in 140 characters or less.

I hear people say I have 500 or more “friends” on Facebook, I’ve have 3,000 friends who follow me on Twitter, I text with 100 friends a day at school. Really, you thinks those are friends, that you have a real relationship with them. I beg to differ with anyone on those statements.

A resent survey I read showed people admitted that in the last year they spent 33% less time in actual live conversations with people ether via phone or in person. We are a society that is becoming more and more impersonal, and disconcerted from people in real intimate forms of communication. 1994 through 2004 Friends was the number one TV show. Everyone wanted what they had, there own posse of friends to hang out with like that. Today not so much true it seams these days.

Here is a sort list of the difference between a real, true friend and virtual friends:

Virtual Friends vs. True Friends

VIRTUAL FRIENDS:
Say “hello everyone”

TRUE FRIENDS:
Give you a hug and a kiss.

VIRTUAL FRIENDS:
Know you have parents.

TRUE FRIENDS:
Know your parents.

VIRTUAL FRIENDS:
Never share a meal with you.

TRUE FRIENDS:
Help make dinner and will spend hours there, talking, laughing, playing cards and just being together.

VIRTUAL FRIENDS: 
Know about your favorite places.

TRUE FRIENDS:
Have been to your favorite places with you.

VIRTUAL FRIENDS:
Have never seen you cry.

TRUE FRIENDS:
Cry with you.

VIRTUAL FRIENDS:
Have never heard your laugh.

TRUE FRIENDS:
Recognize your laugh across a crowded room.

VIRTUAL FRIENDS:
Know a few things about you.

TRUE FRIENDS:
Could write a book about who you are on the inside, what makes you tick.

VIRTUAL FRIENDS:
Will leave you behind if that’s what the crowd is doing.

TRUE FRIENDS:
Will track down those who left you and kick their asses.

VIRTUAL FRIENDS:
Will never knock on your door.

TRUE FRIENDS:
Walk right in and make themselves at home

VIRTUAL FRIENDS: 
Do not visit you in the hospital when you’re sick.

TRUE FRIENDS:
Show up at the hospital and spend the night with you in the hospital, and cut your grass and clean your house and cook for you when you come home.

VIRTUAL FRIENDS:
Have you on their friends list.

TRUE FRIENDS:
Have been to where you live, work and play.

VIRTUAL FRIENDS:
Are for a while.

TRUE FRIENDS:
Are for life.

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