Why is it I met the best women during my “Bad Boy” years

Why is it I met the best women during my “Bad Boy” years

Looking back over my life I can not help but wounder why is it that the best women, the most incredible women I ever met, I met during my “Bad Boy” years. And why is it the only women worthy of marrying, that I would want to be the mother of my children, I have meet outside of the Church. Why is it I have never found the proverbs 31 woman, a women I wanted to marry in a church. This is a great mystery to me. I can honestly say I have not even meet a girl at a church in the last 19 years I would have married. I could count on one hand and have fingers left over ones that I even would have asked out on a date. But yet I meet women outside the church daily that are incredible that I would ask out on a date, and that is a said testimony for the church, for Christian women.

Why is this I ask?

  • Anthony Epp
    Posted at 22:44h, 05 January

    Why? Because most of the time women are not truthful with men let alone themselves even. They all say (yeah I know, no generalizing however this has come from a variety of women from a wide ranging backgrounds) they want the nice guy. Basically they are describing me without the GQ looks, but when it comes down to the guys they go out with and seek out, it’s the bad guys. And women inside the church are mostly stuck up and tend to give off the vibes they are somehow unavailable (translated unavailable).

  • Matthew F
    Posted at 12:55h, 06 January

    The typical Bad Boy:
    # is cocky, arrogant
    # always puts himself first
    # is inattentive to a woman’s needs
    # does what he wants when he wants to do it, regardless of what anyone else thinks
    # acts like a loose cannon
    # struts his masculine sexuality
    # isn’t even remotely a “nice” guy
    # treats women badly
    # often uses women for sex

    All negative character traits, to say the least. Yet women flock to them in droves. Why?

    A Bad Boy exudes untamed masculinity, independence and confidence. To women, these traits — especially confidence — are an aphrodisiac.

    What was going on was that girls where having a gut reaction to your confidence and male strength, and your independent attitude a major turn on.

  • Jill M
    Posted at 14:17h, 06 January

    A really nice guy whom I am friends with had a crush on me. He’d compliment me, sent me little gifts and was sweet to me. I valued him as a friend, but nothing more. He had characteristics that to me showed he was lacking self-esteem, he was too clingy, and felt like he thought by spoiling me I’d like him etc. And those things are nice, but never a substitute for a real man, for manliness.

    Personally, I’ve always been attracted to very strong, masculine, manly men (firemen, military, etc). Probably because I want a strong man that I know will protect and stand up for me. Many times this “sort” of man can come with a bit of an edge. For myself it’s the strong, protective, warrior, thing that attracts me. As well as we all like things that are hard to get, the very thing that does not want us, we want even more, and I bet in your bad boy years you where hard to get, you where a challenge, nice guys that chase you are no challenge. Think on this Johnny Deep rocketed to the hight of his popularity with woman after he played the roll of pirate (bad boy) Jack Sparrow not after playing the leading romantic man Don Juan DeMarco in the movie by the same name (does anyone even remember the movie?). Try not to be too nice too soon when you meet someone, and get back some of that bad boy attitude. Be the nicest bad boy /baddest nice boy a girl could want to meet.